HW 35

When I asked my friends about they ideas around birth they asked why I was asking such a strange question. I replied that I had to ask some question for history class like I have done a few times before. One of the guys said that he hadn’t thought much about birth and having a baby. He didn’t see him self-having a baby anytime soon. The others answer with similar responses at first. Then I asked for then to think more about what the thought of birth and one of them said the idea of having a child within the next 4 years scares him. He didn’t fell he was ready. Everyone seems to agree that none of them were ready to have a child now. He thought that even when he was ready that they still be scared. But my other interviewee didn’t think that he we scared when the time came. He thought that he would man up and deal with it and be by his wife side when she needed him. He talked to parents and other parents and they positive feedback he received from them he wants to go through the process of bring a baby into this world.

From there I asked when they thought the rite time/age to give birth/be a father. One of them said that he first would wait for his wife to be ready for that step. He said that he didn’t think that was till has was around 30. He said that could change depending on many things. But he thought that when they were ready for the responsibility of taking care of another life that he would know and would be ready for a baby. Another guy said that there wasn’t any age that was rite for him because at this point he didn’t think that he would ever have a child, so no time. The other responded with just an age range of 29-40. And that he wouldn’t want to many kids. And the last guy said that 27-40 was his guess and that he wanted 2-5 kids since he had 5 siblings he liked a big family.

Then I asked what they thought about abortion. They had already stated that they believed that they should be in a marriage before having a baby. So the topic of abortion their answer was unanimous. They were all against abortion. Most of them had a Christian background so the answer was expected. They had a view that was not very common in New York, most people our age in New York are pro choice. They believe that only in a marriage should you have a child. Accidents shouldn’t happen and even then there are other options besides abortion.

Besides the difference in view of ages for birth(having a child) many of the same answers were agrees upon. I thought about interviewing other people but then I thought that many of the view that we might would receive was the same and that this might be a little different and unique. They believed that you should wait for you spouse and that there was a maturity level needed before having a kid. Loving you kids was also agreed upon to. “It should be a learning process and you can only try your best and love your child and spouse.”

HW 34

When I think of birth I also think of death. Everyone must go through both it is just a part of life the start/beginning and the end of life. As a guy I will never have to go through the process of giving birth to a child and I am grateful for that. I would never wish that amount of pain on myself or any other person. This makes me thankful for moms. But from what I have heard it is one of the happiest moments of couples lives. To bring a life into this world seems very powerful. But it isn’t always a happy time. Not all babies survive the process and not every child grows up and has a full life. Losing a child while they are being born isn’t a thing anyone wants to go through.

Having a baby is a huge commitment not something you just decide without serious considering with your spouse. Having a child is also an investment. It is an investment since money is spent nurturing and growing a child before they can pay back and supports you. Personally I don’t know if I want children I haven’t thought about if much I do know that I am not good with kids. But if I were to I would want to plan for it not a surprise type thing.

Question

1.) How many couples have children unintentionally and how many end up happy even though it wasn’t planed.
2.) If childbirth is so painful and somewhat dangerous why haven’t we been able to find another way to have kids?
3.) What influences a family to have a child and what influences others not to have one?
4.) What are some not so commonly known facts about birth that every couple should know before making a decision?